We are all well aware of the growing phenomenon of social networking and the attraction that it has for children and young people. Social networking is here to stay and is very important to young people. We are hearing daily in the media about sites such as Facebook and YouTube.
Young people, including many of our own students, have Facebook accounts and use them regularly. This phenomenon is not going to go away and it is up to us as parents, teachers, mentors and leaders of the next generation, to make sure that children learn to use the technology safely and responsibly. President Barak Obama, the US President, when asked what one piece of advice he would give to the young people of America, said, “Be careful what you put on Facebook.”
In light of this, and should you be willing for your child to have a Facebook account, I am providing some information, advice and strategies to parents that, I believe, will help keep our children safe and allow them to become responsible users of technology.
Information about Facebook
- It is against the Facebook Rules for children under the age of 13 to use Facebook. Are you aware that your children may be using false dates of birth in order to create their accounts?
- Some children may not understand the issues around privacy and have inadequate privacy settings allowing anyone, anywhere to search the sites for photos or participate in conversations with them potentially exposing themselves to approaches by online predators.
- Children using inappropriate language (swearing, name calling, bullying) on their page. Once posted it can be seen by all of their ‘friends’ on Facebook and depending on the privacy settings of their ‘friends’, potentially seen by thousands of ‘friends of friends’. Children have always experimented with swear words but in the past it has been in the privacy of a conversation with only a few listeners, not a permanent record for hundreds to see.
- Some children are using Facebook to bully or tease others with inappropriate comments or ‘put-downs’. Other children then post comments such as “I agree”, “LOL” or click on the thumbs-up button to indicate that they ‘like’ the comment or picture. These children then become part of the problem by supporting the initial harassment. (Under Australian law, inappropriate use of communication technologies can be a ‘criminal offence’ if they are used to “cause offence, bully, harass or embarrass” someone. Any person 10 years of age or older can be charged and convicted.)
- I have seen children’s Facebook pages that include photos of other children at school or at school camp that they do not have permission to post. ‘Tagging’ of friends in photos is another area fraught with risk. Once again, these photos can be accessed by every ‘friend’ and depending on the settings, every ‘friend of a friend’. If the child has no privacy settings these photos can be accessed by anyone.
The concept of ‘Friends’ on Facebook
Parents should be talking to their children about who their Facebook ‘friends’ are. The number of ‘friends’ on Facebook is a matter of pride for most children and they will tell you exactly how many they have, and for many of them, it is hundreds, including many who are not even close acquaintances.
Advice for parents
- Log in to our Digital Excellence site with your child and work through the silver and gold cyber safety badges together. http://www.deaausonline.com It will take approximately 30 minutes and will provide you with common knowledge as well as a great opportunity to discuss something of immense importance to children’s on-line safety.
- As a parent, you should take a rigorous interest in your child’s online activities including Facebook.
- As a parent you should be listed as a Facebook ‘friend’ so that you have access to your child’s page.
- Check at least weekly, to see what your child is posting or talking about (or to) ‘on-line’. This needs to be done carefully and thoroughly as there can be ‘conversations’ that are posted in reference to photos and may not be obvious on your child’s ‘wall’.
- Monitor their Facebook friends list. Who are they accepting as a friend?
Bullying on-line
If you find that your child is being harassed on-line please report it and print out a hard-copy. Delete or block the offending ‘friend’ and never ever respond. Report the abuse to the administrator of the site by using the ‘Report this Page’ link on Facebook or to the school if you know which school they attend. (In Facebook the ‘Help Centre’ is located under the ‘Account’ tab.)
When we get a report of bullying on Facebook we seek to verify this by getting a hard copy of the offending comments. Sometimes children will ‘sign-on’ to their account and show us the relevant comments that have been posted. We treat incidents of on-line harassment very seriously and follow up with the parents of the child/ren posting the inappropriate comments and report matters to the Police if necessary.
The Digital Users Agreement that Bimbadeen Heights asks every child to sign at the start of each year makes it clear that children will not use the Internet for teasing or bullying at school or at home. Point 4 states that they agree “Not to cyber bully other students at school or at home using the Internet, email or mobile phones.” It is also against the school rules for children to use Facebook at school and it is a blocked site on the computers that the children have access to.
The Department of Education and Early Childhood Development (DEECD) also has very clear guidelines on acceptable use of the ICT resources. This policy is available at: http://www.education.vic.gov.au/about/deptpolicies/acceptableuse.htm
The Australian Communications and Media Authority (ACMA) have a great website to help parents understand and deal with cyber safety matters. http://www.cybersmart.gov.au I encourage parents to bookmark this site and refer to it regularly.
The Internet is an important part of our day to day communication with others. It provides us with enormous opportunities. It is important that we ensure our children use the Internet responsibly and safely at home and at school.
Should you want further information on this topic or need advice or assistance please contact Mr Matt Laws or myself at the school on 9726 9989 or email via the contact tab on our school website.